Cuddle Party Perth

Sunday 21st February | 11.30am – 3.30pm
A workshop with a social atmosphere based on kindness, affection, and fun.⁠

We’re blessed to have Somatic & Creative Therapist Vanessa Vance bringing Cuddle Party Perth to the heART of Rest loft this month. ⁠

Cuddle Party is a safe and supportive space for adults to explore a wide range of nurturing touch and connection experiences.⁠

The first hour or so is a communication workshop in which you will learn how to ask for what you want in a way that it feels like a gift. You will learn to choose; say yes and no and even change your mind in a graceful way. This is followed by a couple of hours of freestyle cuddling where you get to practice the skills learned in the workshop.⁠

The communication workshop during the first hour includes an explanation of the rules that can guide you in every day life. The rules are tried and true, and there is a logic to them that goes deeper than you might think to create a safe, fun environment for people to connect. Intrigued? Come check it out!⁠


  1. Pyjamas stay on the whole time.
  2. You don’t have to touch anyone at a cuddle party, ever.
  3. You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. (Be as specific in your request as you can.)
  4. If you’re a yes, say YES. If you’re a no, say NO.
  5. If you’re a maybe, say NO.
  6. You are encouraged to change your mind.
  7. Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner.
  8. Get your Facilitator or the Assistant if you have a question or concern or need assistance with anything during the event.
  9. Tears and laughter are both welcome.
  10. Respect people’s privacy
  11. Keep the Cuddle space tidy

​Some of the gifts you may take away from Cuddle Party include learning more about and connecting with yourself, knowing more about your wants and limits and being able to communicate them, and connecting with other like-minded folks in authentic and nourishing ways, plus much more. How you explore and experiment with what is on offer is up to you!

The Cuddle Party lasts for about 4 hours.⁠

11:30am – 12pm Arrive, check in, meet the crew, orient yourself with facilities, change clothes if you need to, and settle in.⁠

12pm – 1pm The Welcome Circle. Attendees MUST be present for the whole welcome circle to participate for the rest of the experience.⁠

1pm – 3pm Freestyle practice time with what you learnt in the Welcome Circle – what we call “Cuddling”.⁠

3pm – 3:30pm Closing circle, pack up, snacks and goodbyes. Must vacate premises by 3:30pm.⁠

As a first time attendee, the Cuddle Party was an amazing experience to have fun, relax, learn, listen, share and connect with nice people. You’ll feel uplifted after and will want to come back again” – Fred.

I love practicing consent. Asking for what I want and being open to hearing a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ . Vanessa is professional as she is warm and holds the space beautifully. Thank You!” – Julia

Who is your Facilitator?

Vanessa K Vance. I am a counsellor and a somatic sex educator currently completing a Graduate Diploma in Creative Arts Therapies at Murdoch University. I studied counselling at Edith Cowan University (Bachelor of Counselling, 2017) and sexological bodywork with the Institute of Somatic Sexology (Certified Sexological Bodyworker, 2014). I am a certified Cuddle Party facilitator, a certified Wheel of Consent facilitator in training and facilitate various workshops and classes on embodiment, intimacy, and consent. I also have extensive experience in the tantric and shamanic arts. I am super passionate about providing opportunities for folks to develop stronger and more positive experiences within their bodies, to improve their communication and connection with others, and to experience more power and freedom as a human being. I am deeply motivated about furthering the culture of consent, embodiment, and sexual freedom and advocating for social change through individual awareness and growth.

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